My areas of focus

  • Your younger self had it all planned; but now you don’t recognize who is in the mirror anymore. You pour yourself into your families, your jobs, and everyone who needs you.

    You’ve learned to keep things together—to be the strong one. You’re used to pushing through and getting things done. On the outside, everything seems good, and for the most part, you are functioning just fine. Except you are not fine.

    Maybe beneath the surface, there’s a heaviness that you’ve gotten used to—the tension in your body, the never-ending exhaustion of faking and masking, and the quiet sadness that always seems to hang over you.

    Even if only you see it.

    I’ll be with you in the discomfort of the not knowing, the shame, the sadness, the perfectionism, the perceived failures. My role is to be with you in the mess and help make meaning of it—to be the sturdy presence of empathy, compassion and healing.

    And of finding your way back to you.

  • It happened and I am so sorry it did. I can’t change it, you can’t rewrite it or power through it anymore and you feel like it’s time. This isn’t about what is wrong with you - it’s about what happened to you.

    It will be uncomfortable; even maybe unbearable at times but what we do know is you have powerful survival strategies that may need to take a rest for a bit. They have worked really hard at getting you here and it’s time to make some new ones that can take it from here.

    Trauma doesn’t always look like intense flashbacks, nightmares, or panic attacks. Sometimes, out of nowhere, a memory from the past shows up and catches your breath. Suddenly, you’re back in the feelings you thought you’d moved past.

    Sometimes, it’s the constant feeling of doubting yourself, thinking that you’re being a burden to others, and pleasing those around you. Other times, it’s a realization—that maybe it’s not over; maybe it’s time for it to be.

    This will be your safe space to explore, untangle, and be.

  • Couples therapy isn’t just for crisis. It’s for the how did we get here and the what do we do now—it’s for the ones navigating kids, sex and intimacy, or trust that’s been broken, betrayed or lost. It’s for the partners who want a strong foundation, and the ones who simply want more play, more communication, or more joy. The ones ready to stop letting the past determine what lies ahead, and the ones barely hanging on - or ready to let go.

    It’s for you both.

    And the quiet hope inside that things could feel different.

    ENM warmly welcomed

    For more information about Couples

Sunrise over a snowy mountain lake with pine trees and large rocks along the shoreline.

you have tried this before…

I hear you. This may be your first or 50th time in therapy. Maybe it has worked or maybe it’s taking you a long time to give this another go.

I’m not everyone’s cup of tea - that’s okay. What I am is genuine, honest and focused. You are done with feeling sad, full of shame, frustrated or unhappy. You want to rebuild, reconnect or understand the relationship and don’t know where to start. I will show up in a very personal way and sit in the noise, chaos, and pain with you. I will offer you some insight, some hope, a port and a compass… and some very tangible tools. We will identify patterns, explore strategies, experience discomfort - and learn how to show up for yourself.

You have been enduring and coping for a long time. It’s time to slow down, explore some ideas and feel the shift toward actual change, healing and calm.

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here you can…

  • Reclaim what you want; quiet the noise

  • Find your voice, your place, and your peace

  • Eliminate that inner critic that never lets up

  • Stop bracing for impact in your relationships

  • Let yourself feel - maybe again, maybe for the first time

  • Stop using your success as a gauge for your worth - plot twist, it’s faulty

  • Engage all the parts of you - how you got here and what to do now

  • Embrace, redefine, or untether from that relationship - or understand what it needs

How will Therapy Help me?

pain is inevitable, suffering is optional

We are going to feel pain. We can’t stop the hit, but what we can do is figure out how to manage the distress and learn meaningful ways to deal - without suffering. We figure out what burdens are ours to carry and what to let go what isn’t. We build healthy strategies, reclaim our worth, and love the one in the mirror.

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