Find each other again
Hey…
It was never about the laundry.
It was about: How could you do this?
It was about: We're supposed to be partners.
It was about: Do you even care about me?
It was about: We don’t even know each other anymore.
It was about: I’m scared. I’m mad. I’m confused. I don’t know what to do.
If you only talk about the laundry, nothing gets resolved.
If you want to strengthen your relationship, build connection, understand what happened and what to do…
I’ve got a place for you right here.
Let’s get started
Couples’ therapy opens up a portal…
Here you have space, a voice, and time to:
Feel safe and supported in the untangling of it all.
Learn how to show up for each other. Like REALLY show up, even when it’s hard.
Recognize the parts, patterns, the limiting beliefs, and those tired strategies that no longer serve.
Craft a relationship where you redefine sex and intimacy.
Design a peaceful transition in the uncoupling experience while being supported through discernment, separation, and/or co-parenting. (For couples ending a relationship)
This is a safe, non partisan place where every individual and couple and all lifestyles, relationships and identities are supported, valued, and welcomed.
You love each other, but these days you feel completely disconnected…tagging in and out of tasks or household duty, and never actually seeing each other.
Intimacy starts to feel like just another thing on the to-do list, and even when the opportunity is there, the spark isn’t. Maybe you’ve stopped bringing it up altogether because it always leads to tension or fighting, or you’re afraid of being shut down and making things worse.
You don’t recognize this version of your relationship.
The distance, defensive sarcasm, mistrust or blame, avoidance, parenting fights, old traumas showing up…
It wasn’t supposed to be like this.
And no one really talks about how painful that can be.
“I thought Couples Counseling was going to be fighting in front of a neutral party who nods along. But what it ended up being was ground up healing and absolutely life changing. We became better people individually so when we are together, it feels like a new marriage. It’s the best investment we ever made.”
— Client Reviewer, Arlington, VA
You love your partner, but it feels like you’re living parallel lives.
What used to feel easy now feels tense and fragile…or even broken.
You’ve built a beautiful life together or are trying to…but inside, it’s lonely. confusing. sad.
You’re stuck in an ongoing cycle of miscommunication, emotional exhaustion, conflicts, distance, betrayal
If you're not ready to give up on this relationship, but know something has to change…
I offer you…
A direct, nuanced and invested approach and a soft place to land so we can build the relationship that actually works for both of you.
A note about Betrayal and Infidelity
Sometimes the relationship doesn’t end when the affair is discovered, but the version of that relationship you thought you had does.
There are multiple truths to be felt at once.
Emotional whiplash, regret, anger, numbness, obsession over details, grief and longing to put everything back the way it was…it’s very real and excruciating to navigate alone.
There is no master manual on how to feel but there are specific paths to explore the emotions with transparency and safety to stop living in reaction and rupture and start feeling steady again.
Whether you choose to stay together or take a break, therapy can provide both of you an honest and solid path through the painful middle space to find your footing again.
You don’t have to decide or manage this alone.
Whatever your relationship has turned into,
it doesn’t have to stay this way.
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It depends on what we are working on and what speaks to you.
Generally, I use an Emotionally Focused approach that helps identify triggers and increase connection through learned, actionable strategies. This isn’t a place to relitigate arguments but rather to figure out what you are both actually trying to say. It’s a powerful, engaged focus that treats the couple, vs each individual and every session is direct, intentional and designed for both of you to feel safe, heard and valued in this process.
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I believe strongly that coming here means you are both ready to get busy. I recommend a weekly schedule for the first set of sessions to establish, build rapport and comfort, and get familiar with the process that you can continue at home. Everything we do in session is with paced intention to allow for adaptation, comfort and ultimately autonomy. Most clients move to bi-weekly until they feel comfortable move to as needed or monthly to check in. I have several couples who come in every few months to connect and it’s always my pleasure to stay on as a wingman.
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Couples sessions are scheduled with busy adults in mind. Sessions start at 55 minutes and can be scheduled for 90 or 120 minutes or more, for an uninterrupted, immersive approach.
In longer intensives, we get more groundwork covered and focused for deeper work in less time resulting in faster and more impactful results that time between sessions can delay.
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Reach out here to connect. We can speak by phone to answer any questions and I can offer you more information. If we are a fit, we move to scheduling our first appointment. This gives me a chance to get some background, we establish goals and start right away - paced intentionally to your comfort.
Your trust is important to me - I make sure you feel heard and valued before moving forward. Nothing else matters to me without that.
If my approach doesn’t work for you, I ensure you have referrals to reach out to.
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My clients range from high functioning cisgender parents to young relationships starting out to poly/ENM/LGBTQ2A executives trying to balance families, jobs and life transitions.
If your relationship could use some support or a new direction, you are welcome here.