My areas of focus
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Your younger self had it all planned; but now you don’t recognize her. You pour yourself into your family, your job, and everyone who needs you and sometimes it just feels heavy. You aren’t even sure you know what it is.
You’ve learned to keep things together. You’re used to pushing through and getting things done. On the outside, everything seems good, and for the most part, you are functioning just fine. Except you are not fine.
Maybe beneath the surface, there’s a heaviness that you’ve gotten used to—the tension in your body, the never-ending exhaustion of faking and masking, and the quiet discontent that seems to hang over you.
Even if only you see it.
I’ll be with you in the discomfort of the not knowing, the shame, the sadness, the perfectionism, the perceived failures. My role is to be with you in the mess; to be the sturdy presence of empathy, compassion and healing. We aren’t wired for this. You are not failing - you are self-protecting and I have a few ideas.
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Trauma is deeply personal and your story to tell.
This isn’t about what is wrong with you - it’s about what happened to you.
You have powerful survival strategies that have worked really hard at getting you here. They are brilliant but what used to work is now maladaptive. Finding safety and releasing the chokehold is within you.
Trauma doesn’t always look like intense flashbacks, nightmares, or panic attacks. Maybe it not-so-subtly steals your confidence, your voice, your relationships, your peace. Maybe it catches you off-guard and suddenly you are back in the feelings you thought you’d moved past.
Trauma can be a constant feeling of doubting yourself, the flawed messaging that you’re a burden to others, and pleasing those around you keeps your value online.
Sometimes it’s perfectionism, avoidance, rage, stoicism…but the brilliant part about you is this is your body’s way of protecting you.
And maybe it’s time to find your footing again.
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Couples therapy isn’t just for crisis. It’s for the how did we get here and the what do we do now—it’s for the ones navigating kids, sex and intimacy, or trust that’s been broken, betrayed or lost. It’s for the partners who want a strong foundation, and the ones who simply want more play, more communication, or more joy. The ones ready to stop letting the past determine what lies ahead, and the ones barely hanging on - or ready to let go. It’s about communicating in a way that you both actually hear each other - and hold that space.
It’s for you both.
And the quiet hope inside that things could feel different.
All couples of all identies and lifestyles warmly welcomed
I hear you. This may be your first or 50th time in therapy. Maybe it hasn’t worked and maybe it’s taking you a while to give this another go.
You have been enduring and coping long enough
The hypervigilance, the shutdown, the chronic anxiety, the people-pleasing—these aren't character flaws. They're protective strategies your nervous system developed to keep you alive. And they worked. You're here.
But survival strategies that once protected you, can become prisons.
If you want to understand what happened and what to do, all you have to do is show up.
I’ll meet you there.
maybe you have tried this before…
here you can expect to:
Reclaim what you want; shut down the self-defeating noise
Shut down that bullshit inner critic that never lets up
Stop bracing for impact in your relationships
Stop using your outward success as the only gauge for your worth - (spoiler alert, it’s faulty)
Engage all the parts of you - how you got here and what to do now
Embrace, redefine, or untether from that relationship.
Finally - unburden what’s not yours to carry and claim what is.